NO MORE BS: Know the Why – NO Fear!

NO FearAs I was coming into manhood, a clothing brand began and was almost instantly popular; the brand is easily recognizable and states two words, “No Fear!”  Launched in 1989 by twin brothers Mark and Brian Simo, No Fear quickly became one of the most popular sportswear companies globally—and the most popular sportswear company staunchly against being scared.  I will not claim I have “No Fear,” but I choose to live without fear.  When fears arise, my answer is to learn all I can, mentally prepare for times when those fears will rise again, and then move forward living like those fears will not repeat, for I am mentally prepared.

USS Barry (DDG-52) - WikipediaCase in point, I was on a destroyer in the US Navy.  I had been on the ship for more than two years; I was in charge of Repair 5, the Engine Room damage control locker, and in the middle of the 0000–0400-watch, the bells and alarms go off, “Major Fuel Oil Spill in Main 1.”  Because I had practiced, I had personally trained my fire team.  I was exceedingly knowledgeable about the space, the equipment, and the watchstanders; I proceeded into an actual casualty with confidence, not fear.  More, my team could trust the training I had given them, and they moved from sleep to firefighting with confidence.  While no fire erupted that night, the casualty was quickly contained by the watchstanders.  My fire team was prepared to assist; the experience looked upon is not one of embarrassment from fear but confidence and appreciation for preparation, drills, and knowledge.

Gas Chamber 4My first time going through the CS Gas Chamber happened with my National Guard unit.  I was scared, not fearful, just frightened.  I had no confidence in the equipment, I had not been to basic training yet, and here I was going into a gas chamber.  This experience provided me with confidence that my fellow soldiers in basic training did not have as we went into the gas chamber in basic training when I experienced the gas chamber in the US Army Basic Training, Fort Leonard Wood, Missouri.  I had no fear, no trepidation, and no reason to doubt.

During Basic Training, I remember only one time being truly scared, not fearful, just scared!  I had failed to pass on the shooting ranges and was facing being kicked out of the US Army because I could not shoot what I was aiming at.  I had been shooting since I was 14, I knew how to handle rifles, but still, I could not qualify with the M-16.  The problem, I could not relax, and this inability to relax was jerking the trigger and making my rounds go astray.  Worse, I did not know why I could not relax.  Thus, arrives the point of this article, do you know the why in your emotions, decisions, and desires?

Bait & Switch 2You possess beliefs, and some might even be firmly held beliefs; this is great.  I am not writing to dissuade you from your beliefs, to decide differently, or even to emote in a manner foreign to you.  My intent is to aid you in introspection, a path of self-knowledge where you know why you know, why you believe, and why you act as you do.  Do you know why; in knowing why you begin to understand, and understanding brings knowledge and acceptance.

I have a friend who had an abusive childhood.  Her childhood was fraught with danger, all types of abuse, and this childhood prepared her to be in two abusive marriages and consider those abusive marriages as normal.  She is now remarried to a good guy, not abusive at all.  Except she has a lot of health problems, and she seeks out medical opinions for everything, seeking to find domineering in a relationship as a by-product of her childhood.  She refuses to believe that childhood events drive her doctor fixation and not health problems.  I will not attempt to dissuade her of this opinion.  I support the good she does, the good she and her husband do, and I will continue to choose to be her friend.  But fear and refusing to know why has all but crippled my friend, and this is painful to see!

Question 3Do you know why?  Are you willing to investigate to know why?  What will you choose to do when the why is revealed?  Knowing why requires mental preparation, mental preparation requires mental strength, agility, and flexibility, all skills that require practice, time, and development through experiences willingly sought.  Therein lay the most challenging part of building mental skills, being willing to seek out these opportunities, and remaining fixed upon learning, no matter the cost.

I have met some amazing people who refused to accept what the truth was going to cost them.  Learning comes with a price; that price is in the choice to apply or deny what has been taught.  The price is the consequence that follows the decision to accept or reject that which was learned.  My brother’s wife discovered he was cheating on her and had been cheating on her almost from the moment they married.  She stayed in the marriage for seven kids and nearly 20-years.  Hoping he would change.  I honor her willingness and sacrifice; I respect her devotion to my brother, I understand her position and her reasoning.  Still, I wonder, should she have left him immediately upon learning of his infidelity?  She knows the why now, but she refused to accept the why, and the consequences were painful in the extreme for many years.  She is better now, remarried, and the kids are recovering, but did they have to suffer?  Did she have to suffer?  Choice and consequence after learning is mentally difficult.

GearsAs stated and repeated only for emphasis, you may choose how you will, believe, feel, and act the way you think is best for you and yours.  My aim and intent are not to dissuade but to help you more fully appreciate the why and lose the fear.   As a teenager, a friend of mine, a shepherd, asked me to help him on the ranch.  My first day coincided with shearing day, and with 400-head of sheep to shear, this was not going to be an easy day.  Herding the sheep into the corral was not difficult and was accomplished without incident.  Getting the sheep into the run and into the trailer to be sheared was incredibly difficult, but getting the sheep out of the shearing van was easier than falling off the porch.  Why; because of fear.  The sheep wanted to be sheared, but the confinement of the run and the noise the shears produced increased fear so much that the animals could hardly think straight, and they became more fearful the closer they got to the van where the shearing stations were.  Animals confined in tight quarters in the run turned themselves about and tried to flee backward in the run.  Fear made them do incredible things I had never imagined an animal could do.

WhyAs I experienced life, surviving the US Army and the US Navy, I learned what fear does to humans; worse, the consequences of fear leave an indelible impression upon the minds of those who chose to succumb to fear.  The movies never show this side of fear; books and magazines never discuss the aspects of what fear does to harm the mind and body of the person involved.  Worse, society has come up with terms and names to soften the repercussions of a moment’s fear.  As a kid, I watched a lot of M*A*S*H 4077; in one of those shows, Sigmund, the psychiatrist, talks about how a moment’s fear on the battlefield becomes a lifetime of regret, shame, and the potential of an eternal soul is lost.  All because, for one moment, fear overcame, and the body responded, while the mind lost control.

QuestionDo you know why?  Are you willing to discover the why and teach others what you have learned?  The final step in introspection is not acceptance but being willing to teach.  Through teaching, you learn more perfectly; this is a pattern that I have seen replicated in too many classrooms to ignore.  I met an amazing woman in a long-term care facility in Geneva, Ohio.  She was my mothers-in-law’s roommate.  She was a teacher and began her career in a one-room schoolhouse at sixteen.  She retired just after the school’s consolidated.  She had been blind for a long time.  I never met a more grateful person, and I have not met a more learned person!  She said every day she taught, she learned something new, which taught her to be grateful, and in gratitude, she taught and learned for her entire career and every day thereafter.

Thus, I ask again, do you know the why?  Are you willing to learn the why?  How you choose does determine your destiny.  I close with a final thought, are you willing to ever choose the harder right instead of, the easier wrong?  I am not perfect, I struggle to choose the harder right, but I also know the invaluable worth of being prepared mentally and not fearing.  I know the power that comes with choosing to know the why and allowing that choice, with its inherent and natural consequences, to lead towards making better decisions and learning.  There is power in knowing why there is power in failure, there is hope in failure, and great peace in knowing the why.How to Make Any Question Essential with Three Easy Steps – Wabisabi Learning

Search out the why.  Choose to learn.  After learning, accept the price of consequences and see how those consequences can change you!

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NO MORE BS: Why?

Reading - A JourneySimon Sinek authored an incredible book called “Start With Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action.”  The No MORE BS movement is all about inspiring everyone to take action.  We are people who have reached our maximum limit with the problems we see in the world, and we want to see people take action against the tyranny being experienced.  I agree with Mr. Sinek; we need the why.  We need to know why something is important, why something is being refused, why actions were taken that are illogical, and so much more.

Why discuss religion and politics?

Foundational principles of society revolve around how and what people believe.  As they take combined action as a society, the standards of behaviors expected then become the laws of that society.  Those laws are standards of codified behavior and restrictions for social inclusion.  Why do people abhor thieves; the 10-Commandments form the bedrock of Judaic society and include an admonition, “Thou Shalt Not Steal!”  The connection between society beliefs and laws for governing society remains unchangeable in human history.  Why was Rome so strong; their codified beliefs (religions) influenced their politics and their social inclusive behaviors (laws) written down for everyone to be held accountable to.  The Old Testament reports the same thing occurring in Judaic society post-Egyptian bondage.Apathy

I am not advocating a state religion, that is abhorrent to me.  I am advocating for the ability to openly discuss the ties between religion and politics to inspire action in people to live their religion and hold their elected representatives to a higher level of conduct publicly and privately.  Without the ability to discuss these topics, freedom, and liberty disappear in tyranny and chaos.  I do not make this claim lightly; history provides us a perfect example in Egypt post-Jewish bondage, Babylon with the death of strong kings, Rome, and many other empires, city-states, countries, societies.The Duty of Americans

As Rome began changing from various religions to Christianity/Catholicism, the ability to speak freely was one of the first rights stolen by the government to control the spread of religion.  Rome fell!  The United Socialist Soviet Republic (USSR) tried to police people’s beliefs, police thoughts and limit speech.  The USSR fell.  China currently restricts speech and just forced a bunch of speech limiting policies and regulations onto Hong Kong.  China will fall.  Is the pattern clear; America is a Republic (if we can keep it), and when the ability to discuss topics publicly and openly is restricted, we will join history in falling!

Why do humans create societies?

VirtueHumans create societies mainly because we are wired to connect to people who believe as we do.  Just as a magnet is attracted to ferrous metals, humans are attracted to like-minded people.  Consider the New Testament for a minute, specifically John the Baptist.  A person who taught and preached in a wilderness, people, would seek him out to listen to him; these people who heard and chose to believe formed a society of believers.  Regardless of how you believe regarding John the Baptist, the societal changes he inspired are historically apt as an example of the influence of like-minded people combining to effect change in an established society.  The same principle can be applied to Karl Marx and the growth of communism, Christopher Columbus, and the discovery launched by his adventurous spirit, Joseph Smith Jr. and Martin Luther, who inspired religious societies.  Like-minded people are wired to connect, and when they connect, they develop social behaviors, which form the basis to remain included in that society.

Angry Wet ChickenI cannot express in words how vital and straightforward this principle is to sustaining government, of the people, by the people, and for the people.  When a society is infiltrated with those who refuse to believe in a like manner, principles of assimilation, then that society is headed for trouble.  The USSR and the German Democratic Republic (East Germany under the USSR’s control) are perfect examples of positive changes to a body of believers who transformed because others infiltrated the core society, and change occurred.  Hong Kong is another excellent example. China invaded the core belief structure through legal treaty and has refused to honor treaty agreements where Hong Kong is concerned, and chaos is too small a word for Hong Kong’s problems.

Why work to inspire action?

Do you, honestly believe, you have the power to change your society?  If not, these articles are for you.  If so, then these articles should support your efforts and help make your living your ideals and beliefs easier.  There is a business principle, place the power to effect change at the lowest level where the most effect can be felt.  For example, suppose a customer is asking for a refund. In that case, you place the refund process into the hands of a customer service representative and not a VP.  Sure; your refund process will have additional hands for approval and issuing. The power to make the decision must be in the customer service representative’s hands to handle customer claims effectively.

ParadoxThe same principle applies in what we are discussing; your most critical societal actions occur inside the walls of your home with your family.  Thus, the power of America’s government is not in the capitals but inside the homes of its citizens.  When we, the citizens of democratically elected societies, believe this fact, change will occur in our communities.  The Republic of the United States of America is specifically designed to place the maximum amount of power into the lowest level of society, citizens’ homes.  Thus, the need to inspire action on a local level, and why America needs YOU!  This is also why I believe in and support the NO MORE BS movement.  When we stand together, we cannot lose!

Conclusion

Dont Tread On MeWhile only three why questions have been addressed, these three contain lessons for contemplation and should inspire to action, all because the why has been expressed.  No; I have not dived deeply into any of the topics discussed enough to make you a master of these topics; however, I hope I have piqued your interest in these topics and helped form lines of congruence between the issues to aid in improving answers to your why questions.  If you have more why questions, please use the comments to send them to me, and I promise I will help answer those why questions.  I believe in the power of the people; you are important, and your questions deserve answers.  Let’s ask questions and then commit to action.  America needs us!

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