What is Compassion? – Chapter Three in the Emotional Chronicles

Bobblehead DollI admit October has been a hit-and-miss month, and I apologize.  I am not sure why, but I recommit to doing a better job.  Thank you for your patience, dear reader.  Though I haven’t been sitting on my thumbs, I was invited to speak at a disability event and have been furiously writing for that.  I speak on 27 October 2021 at 0600 EST.  While the event is not open to the public, I plan to post my comments online after the event, suitably altered to hide the event and employer for contractual reasons.

Due mainly to the method of my upbringing, I struggle with conceptualizing terms like love, charity, compassion, feelings, and emotions.  I fully understand anger, hate, and rage, but the rest I am a pure novice at best, and at worst, wholly ignorant.  I read the texts, studied the books, watched films and lectures, been to psychiatrists and psychologists, and much more.  My wife is very patient with me on this topic; my friends tend to tease me gently when they trip across my ignorance on a topic.  My enemies know my shortcomings well but cannot use emotions to thwart me, for emotions just don’t work on me.Angry Grizzly Bear

However, I am not a natural people person.  I see someone crying, and I have no clue what to do if there is no visible injury.  I know problem resolution, crisis management and can act well in all types of situations, but when it comes to soft skills and “playing well with others,” guess what subject I have consistently failed?  Believe me; I have the K-12 report cards to prove my inability, as well as many a note sent home!

What is Compassion?

When the gushy parts in movies come along, I line up for the popcorn and soda machines.  I know I am not alone; sometimes, there must be 20 other people, not just men, standing out there making purchases and visiting the bathrooms.  I know I am a people watcher, so I can deduce there are more people than I who struggle with this concept.  Let’s discuss; maybe we can learn something and not be so uncomfortable.

I find the etymology of a word tends to bring enlightenment; the definition of compassion includes the following gem, deep awareness of other people’s suffering accompanied by a deep desire to relieve that suffering.  “Eyes that see and a heart that feels” is a saying the comes to mind to describe compassion as a noun.  However, as a verb, compassion means to pity, and pity as a verb is to reflect regret, sympathy, or sorrow with another person.  A word of warning, sympathy is very closely related to and often concealed by empathy. Where one is only dangerous to oneself when taken to extremes, the other is dangerous to all whenever practiced.

What is Empathy?

Sympathy v Empathy v ApathyEmpathy is all about acting like you understand another person’s emotions and you have a personal desire to share those emotions.  Empathy is fake; empathy is a choice one exercises in the attempt to control a person or situation through emotion.  Being empathetic is a skill set learned as a manner of defense or, for the more nefarious, to control others.  Empathy is nothing more than faking concern.  By encouraging empathy, a person with authority is looking to steal control over enough people to contain a group through that group’s emotional connections.  By choosing to be empathetic, control over the conscious emotional choices is given to someone else for momentary social gains.  Shift the social environment even slightly, and empathy becomes foolish.  Still, people will continue to look for something to emote about, even after being caught feeling ridiculous about being empathetic for social gain.

What is Sympathy?

Sympathy is a process of coming to a common feeling in a social setting or group.  The emotional pathway is journeyed by people or groups to feel the same emotions for someone else’s emotional state.  Sympathy is a most dangerous emotional tool, not for the one experiencing the sorrow or misfortune, but for those who jump in with the person feeling the sadness or experiencing adversity.  Understand, the sympathetic person attracts other sympathetic people, like moths to a flame or lemmings to a cliff.  I have met people in my travels who were so sympathetic with another person that they thought they had contracted cancer, become pregnant, or had an addiction to dangerous drugs.

Historical Etymology of Compassion

The following is quoted from the Online Etymological Dictionary to satisfy my inner nerd and explore the etymology further, and the link is provided above.  Latin compassio is an ecclesiastical loan-translation of Greek sympatheia.  Sometimes in Middle English, it meant a literal sharing of affliction or suffering with another.  An Old English loan-translation of compassion was efenðrowung.  “Com” word-forming element usually meaning “with, together,” from Latin com, archaic form of classical Latin cum “together, together with, in combination,” from PIE *kom– “besides, near, by, with” (compare Old English ge-, German ge-). The prefix in Latin sometimes was used as an intensive.  “Passion” c. 1200, “the sufferings of Christ on the Cross; the death of Christ,” from Old French passion “Christ’s passion, physical suffering” (10c.), from Late Latin passionem (nominative passio) “suffering, enduring,” from the past-participle stem of Latin pati “to endure, undergo, experience,” a word of uncertain origin. The notion is “that which must be endured.”

Wwwe-Buddhism Com if Your Compassion Does Not Include ...To the atheists, just because Jesus Christ is mentioned does not make something a religious discussion.  I find it interesting that passion, passio, is directly related to enduring and suffering of physical experiences of Jesus Christ.  Does this mean that a compassionate person is reflecting attributes of Jesus Christ?  If so, does this mean mortal beings can acquire godly attributes and still be mortals?  If not, to what should mortals aspire?

Along the vein of etymology, feeding my inner nerd, and discovering insight into compassion, I went looking for actions that reflect compassion, adjectives describing compassion.  The foremost adjective for compassion is compassionate; how very intriguing.  You look for concrete ways to act in a manner of compassion, and you are told to be compassionate; doesn’t this form a logic circle and a paradox?COMPASSION Is My STRENGTH Not a Sign of Weakness Dr Ronnie ...

Remember, a paradox includes two seemingly opposite points, which are opposites on the first reflection but, on further consideration, are more closely related than opposing.  In considering compassion and compassionate, we find the etymology important to understanding the relationship, physical suffering endured and experienced for others, or on another’s behalf.  According to the New Testament and other religious texts, we find this is the recorded mission of Jesus Christ.  IN the definition of compassion, we find mortals can possess a deep awareness of other people’s suffering and choose to have the awareness be accompanied by a deep desire to relieve that suffering.  But, what if the person with the awareness and desire does not have the ability; what do they do?  Are they less compassionate?  Do they somehow become reduced, heartless, uncaring, or judged for not giving when they do not have?

The answers from the different religions are fascinating on this topic, and if you belong to an organized religion, please feel free to discuss this topic with your Rabbi, Minister, Father, Preacher, Bishop, etc., Atheists, feel free to discuss this topic below and with your friends.  Those in less organized and non-standard religions do what I do, the absolute best you can, and leave the rest in the hands of people more capable.

Compassion Article and Quotes - Funny Stuff, Inspirational ...However, we still return to the core root of compassion; what is it?  From this point forward, I am going to express my limited knowledge and informed opinion.  I could be as wrong eating yellow snow in January, but here goes.

Compassion is being cognizant of the people around you.  See someone with their arms full; rush to open a door.  Offer a hand; better still, find a cart and help them fill the cart.  It’s raining, hold an umbrella—Pet a dog.  Sit down beside a stranger and listen.  See a puddle while driving, slow down, and drive throw without splashing the bus stop where someone is waiting for a bus.  See a sign asking for help, give without judgment; does it really matter what they will do with your contribution?  Say please.  Say thank you!  Say you’re welcome.  Manners matter.Compassion is the path... | Favorite movie quotes, Star ...

Modesty in speech, clothing, and behavior matters.  A friend of mine was fond of the following, saying, “Everyone can do something.  Pitch in!”  As a disabled person, I miss being part of that mentality.  I miss being able to “pitch in.”  Society tells me to stay away, we do not need you, “You’re disabled.”  See someone left out; find a way to include them.

If you question why you are doing something, keep doing it until the questions go away.  Never fear a question; fear not acting on something you feel is the right thing to do.  Want to see society change?  Start the change you want to see by exemplifying that change.  I am still not totally sure what compassion is; I know I want to help people.  I know my resources are limited, but my desire is great.  Let’s do something compassionate; if I understand compassion properly, let’s encourage one person today.  Even if that person is just you, be more encouraging to others.  Society needs more encouragement, needs more smiles, needs more humanity.

Father Mulcahy 2By the way, did you catch the news?  A huge cheese factory explosion occurred in France; da Brie is everywhere.  A large multinational response is underway.  The Kaiser is rolling Hamburgers, and the Danes sent fresh pastries.

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The Power Found in Restraint – Appetite Control is Freedom!

Exclamation MarkThere is a principle in life, “If you are not whole without something, you will never be whole with it.”  Modern psychology will not teach restraint to gain freedom.  It will often try to encourage a person to continue to do self-harm through their lifestyle while at the same time trying to find inner peace through the same lifestyle causing inner turmoil.  Yet, natural law and common sense declare if what you are currently doing is causing you distress, stop what you are presently doing first.

Several times in my life, I have had the pleasure of working with people who have been in this crisis.  All of these people are good people; I make no judgments about their lifestyle choices, moral codes, or desires.  Simply making observations as compared to the principle under discussion.Bait & Switch 2

Person 1, male, arrives onboard the USS Barry, an American Aegis Destroyer about the same time as I.  Works as a cook.  A hard-working person expresses his innermost desire is to obtain a tattoo. It has always been his dream to have a single tattoo.  He thinks it will make him tough.  Upon return to America, he gets a tattoo, then another, and then several more.  He gets off on the pain, but with every tattoo, his soul becomes more and more distressed and anguished, and he begins to hate his appearance simultaneously and desires more tattoos.  Because he was never a complete person mentally, he will never be complete with a tattoo without a tattoo.  He does not understand why something which gives him pleasure through pain is also causing him more mental and spiritual anguish.combatindex.com: DDG 52 : USS BARRY

Person 2, female, sailor from the USS Barry, born and raised in a Christian home, always harbored doubts about religion but never voiced them.  She always considered religion to be a restraint on freedom.  She joins the US Navy, cuts ties to the religion of her youth, and claims she has never been freer.  Her promiscuity is the stories of legends told in the engine rooms and back passageways of the ship.  Her friends on board are scared she will crash and burn on some port visit and find a dead body where their friend used to be.  This sailor thought sex would be the ultimate expression of freedom.  Instead, it became the chains of her demise mentally, physically, and spiritually.  When  I met her, very little remained of the modest and good person she had been as she was growing up; by the time I left the ship, she was unrecognizable.

Two very good people, quick to help, hard-working, people of different backgrounds, but essentially the same.  They discovered the same truth through two very different means, and the truth had nearly broken them when I left the ship.  I grieve for my colleagues and their friends.  By not knowing who they were and understanding their potential, the added freedoms and responsibilities of becoming adults were not the freedoms they expected but chains by which they bound themselves to paths of pain and destruction.

The Paradox

Carl R. Rogers Quote: "The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can ...A paradox is anything that initially appears to be two opposing forces, but when studied, they are not opposites but are closer related than opposites.  For example, one of the principles in understanding oneself and enjoying freedom is accepting restraints.  Case in point, using person 2, had she exercised the modesty discussed in the religion of her youth, she would have found that sexual relations are improved with restraint, not ruined with discretion.  Lies spread in society since the 1960s have claimed that sex is free, has no consequences, and can be engaged in without concern.  All of these are absurd lies leading to the destruction of everyone who listens and becomes engrossed in the lifestyle of free sex.  Hence, sexual restraint is a paradox; practicing restraint in sexual relations improves sexual relations, not hinders them, a contradiction, and freedom is found in restraint.

Person 3 has been observed the longest and is a family member, one of my younger brothers, to be precise.  He has lived his life in a manner that has seen him restrained by external forces because he refuses internal restraint—losing good companions as wives, relationships with children, friends, and colleagues along the way.  All of which has been difficult to witness, but the real tragedy has been the hero-worship heaped upon my younger brother by other more youthful siblings, leading them into dangerous and difficult paths.  Hence, you could call Person 3 an amalgamate of four of my younger siblings, all of whom have chosen paths of appetite fulfillment instead of appetite suppressant.Remember

By choosing to engage in appetite fulfillment, each of them has chased his one preferred appetite, to the exclusion of other all else, usually to the detriment of spousal relationships, children relationships, familial bonds, and responsibilities to society and themselves.  Worse, the shell of these people forms a prickly wall around genuinely good people, who, if they would choose to learn, could be taught appetite suppression.

Training is Contingent Upon Choosing to Learn

One of the most difficult lessons I have learned is that those who choose to learn will, and those who choose to refuse to learn will as well.  Nothing a teacher can do will change a student’s mind once it is made to refuse to learn.  Unfortunately, this means that the teacher will witness a lot of struggles in the student, watch the student experience consequences, and be harmed physically and mentally from the choices made to refuse to learn.

Andragogy - LEARNBelieve it or not, appetite control is a choice and begins with a desire to learn.  The paradox in training is that when the desire to learn is stronger than the appetite to remain ignorant, the learner will produce the effort to change through learning.  This is why appetite control is such a critical and fundamental topic for understanding.  Desire is appetite, an appetite is a tool for good or ill, and bridling an appetite is every person’s job if they choose self-mastery as a means of self-regulation and self-improvement.  When we choose self-mastery, we choose to become free!

Freedom is a paradox of bridled appetites to the greater realization that through suppressed appetite and controlled desires, a person can enjoy more, not less.  Can learn and experience more, have more, become more, and realize more potential.  Long have I been fascinated with racehorses, and the story of Black Beauty is one of my all-time favorites.

How Black Beauty Gave Animals a Voice - ilovehorses.netHow are the best racehorses made?  Sure, breeding helps.  But, training is as, if not more, crucial.  A good animal does not become a great animal until they are placed into the hands of a good trainer who puts restraints upon the animal.  A bridle, a harness, a saddle, wrap their legs to protect against ligament strain, shoes on their feet, and much more.  Then over time, the animal learns that the restraints, which at first were chafing and fought against, become the tools by which the horse achieves greatness.  The same is true for humans, every human, and those who, throw the restraints, never achieve freedom, never achieve excellence, and refuse their potential for momentary happiness, all because of appetite.

Living in a representative government, the citizenry needs to understand this lesson and monitor those elected for people who refuse restraint.  Those who refuse restraint will gather everyone who chooses to take a lazy route to their side, and in doing so, will ruin the representative government and destroy liberty for all.  The debt so many representative governments face right now, which has reached critical mass stages, is due to unbridled appetite and appetite fulfillment for the masses when the government needed appetite restraint instead.  The world’s problems in Afghanistan where rampant appetite fulfillment for the masses when appetite restraint was required.  Terrorism is nothing but an unbridled appetite mixed with modern weapons and a desire to watch the world burn, more unbridled appetites.

Knowledge Check!Do we understand that only through restraining our appetites can we personally enjoy freedom?  Do we teach appetite restraint to our children, knowing that when they control themselves, they can enjoy freedom, and help them to understand why appetite restraint is a good thing?  Do we exemplify appetite restraint in society in speech, clothes, manners and encourage others to do similarly?  If not, why?

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Operational Trust Embodied – Consent of the Governed

The Coliseum | AncientWorldWondersEmperor Titus Flavius Vespasian began work on the Coliseum of Rome in 69 AD.  Upon completion of the Coliseum, his son Emperor Titus held 100-days and nights of festival in the Coliseum.  Ostensibly to calm the masses after the civil unrest following the death of Emperor Nero, the Coliseum acted precisely as it was planned, distract the masses, while the emperor consolidated his power, undermined the Roman Senate, and set the stage for the end of the Roman Empire.  Roman laws were built, originally, upon the consent of the governed until the emperors broke the law.  The people rebelled, and before the squabbling senators could take control, the Roman government was subjugated to empirical rule.  All historical facts, reflecting the power of the consent of the governed and a lesson upon which we can plot the future if we are brave enough to take action.

Consider for a moment what would have happened if a quorum of the Roman Senate had refused the emperor funds until the emperors relinquished powers they had stolen?  What would have happened to the Coliseum if the people had rejected the “bread and circuses” offered by the emperor and demanded a return to the rule of law?  The erection of the Coliseum is a dynamic point in history where we can see how the unjust powers of a government seal the fate of an entire nation, and the principle of operationalized trust can make a difference.Stunning Facts About the Roman Coliseum That'll Leave You Spellbound - Historyplex

What is Trust?

How to Rebuild Trust as a Leader - Optimize InternationalImperative to the following discussion is an understanding of the basics, and the basics require knowing what trust is, what trust does, and what trust is not.  Webster defined trust as an obligation and a condition of having confidence placed upon another.  Another definition for trust includes a firm belief in the integrity, ability, character, reliance, and having confidence in another person or thing.  Hence, trust is not just a belief but a reliance, signifying there have been experiences shared that have proven trust in the fires of adversity, and the person or thing has been found worthy.

Defining trustFor example, in the US Army, when I went through Basic Training, you spent three days in a classroom learning about gas masks, chemical, biological, radiological warfare (CBR), and other tools for protecting yourself in a CBR environment.  Then, you went to the “Confidence Chamber.”  The Confidence Chamber was there to teach you to have confidence in your equipment; by putting you in first in your gas mask, then removing your gas mask, and experiencing tear gas, you learned to trust your equipment and have confidence that what you were learning could save you pain, misery, and hopefully your lives.

The Confidence Chamber also had another purpose that is often missed in the rigors of Basic Training but is as real as the air a person breathes, building trust in the chain of command.  Asking people to do hard things, experience pain, puke their guts out, and all the other effects of the tear gas begins a trust cycle in the chain of command.  As a soldier, you can trust your sergeants and officers, and they can trust you.  Organizational trust begins with these basic experiences in basic training and hopefully grows as a soldier is trained.Gas Chamber 4

Trust is not easily won but can be easily lost.  Trust is not fully developed in a single transaction but can be germinated in a single transaction.  Trust flourishes in two-directional learning paths among people, sharing experiences, time, and values.  Trust is not a solution in and of itself, but it can be a magnifying power of other efforts in achieving resolution.  Trust is a tool, but not a tool that can be employed by itself.  For example, a screwdriver can be force multiplied by a wrench; trust is the same; it is the wrench that multiplies the power of other tools to accomplish work.

What is Operationalized Trust?

Strong Teams Start with Trust: 5 Ways to Build Trust - Invoicebus BlogEstablishing relationships requires the principles of organizational trust, as detailed by Du, Erkens, and Xu (2018), who found when supervisors trust their subordinates, regardless of whether supervisors have a general propensity to trust others or trust subordinates due to previous transactions and social similarity, customer service is significantly improved.  Operationalized trust is nothing but using a trust relationship to improve a shared or common goal.  For example, a business wants better customer satisfaction, so the supervisors use trust between themselves and their employees to increase service quality, promoting enhanced service satisfaction.

Trust quotes images and wallpapers hdIncredibly, the first principle to empowering operational trust is social similarity, which provides the breeding grounds for shared social interactions—knowing where someone originates and if they share values is critical to initiating, building, and maintaining trust propensity.  The second principle for empowering operational trust is extreme oversight; micro-management kills trust relationships and kills individual initiative, individual agency, and individual moral.  A corollary finding is that efficient use of existing control systems is not objectionable or harmful to trust propensity.  This is a critical finding in organizational trust, in that existing controls are acceptable.  When taken to extremes, the consent of the governed is rejected, and the controls become the problem killing the initiative.  Collocation and less stringent controls breed trust propensity that develops organizational trust, improving how people work, or to put it more simply, less strict controls, combined with people sharing similar backgrounds, opens organizational trust and breeds consent of the governed into productivity.

Consent of the Governed Rests Upon the Following Principles

As a reminder, the fundamental principles of a free society, a liberty first culture, and the consent of the governed rest upon the following, which should be returned to often and refreshed daily by the elected officials in government to feed operational trust in a free society and liberty-based government.

No free government, or the blessings of liberty, can be preserved to any people, but by a firm adherence to justice, moderation, temperance, frugality, and virtue, and by frequent recurrence to fundamental principles” [emphasis mine].

          • Justice: Decency to all as a behavior of equality and commitment to moral rightness.
          • Moderation: This is all about not going to extremes, being restrained, knowing the boundaries and staying within limits, and being reasonable and approachable.
          • Temperance: While primarily used in drinking alcohol, this also applies to any behaviors where self-restraint, moderation, and expressions or observance of temperate behaviors are required.
          • Frugality: Besides being a good steward of other people’s resources, being frugal requires being sparing, prudent, economical, thrifty, and reserved.
          • Virtue: Requires moral excellence, modesty, personal dignity, goodness, and conformity to a standard of righteousness.

Putting it all Together

ElectionThe consent of the governed is built upon the intermingled trust between people as a body electing government officers and people representing those elected as government officers.  The problems have arisen because many in public office have refused to accept the government of those who elected them and have served only themselves and the monied interests buying their time.  Thus, trust propensity in government has dropped to disastrous levels. Adding to the problem are the accumulated actions of previously elected officials who have set a pattern for personal wealth by tax and spend, supporting political cronies, and gerrymandering system to protect them from negative election results.  The trust between people of shared values has been broken by those elected, who never shared values, who refuse to live in their home districts, and whose time and the highest bidder can purchase interests.  Thus, is it any wonder that people no longer believe the lies of government are restless and agitated?

The consent of the governed is a precious commodity that has been squandered by those who should have held that precious resource as a mother holds her child—protecting, nurturing, and feeding the consent of the governed to build trust propensity against a time when a pandemic or natural disaster would occur.  Where the government would need to act in a difficult manner.  Instead, hypocrisy has been witnessed from the government leaders and the monied interests purchasing the politician’s time, and the people refuse their consent to be governed.  Where do we see the refusal of consent to be governed; how is the health of the US Dollar and other national currencies?  That is not just inflation blowing up prices, confidence in the future has been shaken, and confidence is the visual representation of the consent of the governed.Plato 2

Where else do we see the consent of the governed being refused?  Recently an Olympiad was held, the government of the US held hearings of great import on legislative matters to conflict with the Olympiad to hide scheduled legal hearings as smoke and mirrors.  When Kevin Durant and Draymond Green called the media out for failing to cover the Olympics, they missed the target; the people they should be denouncing are the politicians trying to distract further, confuse, and cause chaos.

Knowledge Check!President Obama proved one thing while in office when you choose to hold hearings is as important as the content of the hearings, the legislation, and the political gamesmanship.  Paying attention to all of the tricks and media hyperbole is all but impossible, and in the confusion, theft occurs.  But, the law of unintended consequences means that the consent of the governed takes a beating when these tactics are played, and soon polls will show a more significant drop in approval ratings.  (Remember how jock itch has a higher approval rating than Congress?)  Politicians will scramble, the media will try and explain the findings, but the result is always the same, the consent of the governed is being removed at a more rapid pace, and every politician of a representative government needs to start paying attention!

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The Consent of the Governed – A Further Discussion

QuestionThe Virginia Declaration of Rights prefixed the Virginia Colony’s constitution and was written by a reluctant statesman and largest landowner, George Mason.  In sixteen statements on government and the rights of man, we find the consent of the governed and the need for controls on government pertinent to our day and time.  For this article, we are focused upon the first three articles in the Declaration of Rights and the fundamental principles of liberty that must be refreshed and revisited often to maintain a government of the people, by the people, for the people, and where the consent of the governed is respected.

      1. All men are by nature equally free and independent, have certain inherent rights, … namely the enjoyment of life and liberty, possessing property, and pursuing and obtaining happiness and safety.”

This first declaration is important for several reasons. The first is that it places responsibility upon the individual made free to maintain their rights by exercising those rights responsibly and in a manner that the government expects.  How the government is expected to behave is modeled on how people in society behave.  Hence, freedom is a double-edged sword; want to keep your liberties, the way you act is how the government will act.The Duty of Americans

      1. All power is vested in, and consequently derived from, the people; that magistrates are their trustees and servants and at all times amenable to them.”

Have you ever had a bureaucrat treat you like you are scum; well, maybe it is time we reminded them of this principle!  The Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) is regularly documented on this blog as abusing, killing, and harming veteran patients.  I use this principle as the backbone of logic to try and reprimand Congress and the VA into improving their behavior.  I document the behavior of the US Postal Service, the different state Departments of Motor Vehicles, and other government agencies for abusing the taxpayers and acting like feudal lords instead of public servants.

Amenable is described as agreeable, ready to consent, willing to accept a suggestion, or submit to authority.  How many times has a bureaucrat treated you in an amenable manner?  Heck, having worked with them as a fellow employee, I can affirm they are not amenable to their bosses, let alone the customers.  There is a cultural problem in the bureaucratic mind, rejecting all authority as they are protected by labor unions and a quagmire of laws!  Do you think this should be changed for the benefit of the public good?Plato 2

      1. Government is or ought to be instituted for the common benefit, protection, and security of the people. … A majority of the community hath an indubitable, unalienable, and indefeasible right to reform, alter, or abolish it, in such manner as shall be judged most conducive to the public weal.”

I realize the language here is a bit old-fashioned.  All right, a LOT old-fashioned.  Let’s break this down.

        • Indubitable: Anything that is so plain that doubt cannot be admitted is indubitable. For example, water is wet.  If I throw water on you, you will get wet.
        • Unalienable: Also known in legal documents as inalienable. Describing something that cannot be separated from a whole, given away, taken by another, or discharged without destroying the whole.
        • Indefeasible: Anything that cannot be voided, annulled, or defeated; something permanent. This is mostly a legal term.
        • Public Weal: A way of saying public good, the public well being, or the prosperity of the general public, not just the special interests, select citizens, etc., but all citizens.

Mr. Mason is declaring here in the third article that governments can be reigned in, changed, abolished, and remade if the majority of the citizens demand it and if the changes are beneficial for the public good and prosperity.  Consider this for a moment; since Jan/Feb 2020, America, and the world, has witnessed runaway totalitarian government hysteria over a viral infection with a 98%+ survival rate.  As a scientific fact, the annual flu is more dangerous than COVID-19 globally; yet, the flu does not shut down a business, close schools, and ruin economies.  Since the start of COVID, there has not been any Flu-related deaths or Flu-related illness at all.  Doesn’t this raise some serious concerns in the COVID-Mandates and measures?quote-mans-inhumanity

Using the pattern outlined by Mr. Mason, the people being represented can withhold their consent to be governed, reject the current government, or eliminate the current government and start a new government if the changes are more beneficial to the public good.  I find this pattern interesting both in a philosophical and academic sense and in a practical sense.  Long have I argued that the officers of government should have a fear of the ballot box and the people they are responsible for representing.  The insanity we are experiencing because the politicians have gerrymandered the congressional districts to protect their election results is not ethical or moral and is barely legal.

No free government, or the blessings of liberty, can be preserved to any people, but by a firm adherence to justice, moderation, temperance, frugality, and virtue, and by frequent recurrence to fundamental principles” [emphasis mine].

          • Justice: Decency to all as a behavior of equality and commitment to moral rightness.
          • Moderation: This is all about not going to extremes, being restrained, knowing the boundaries and staying within limits, and being reasonable and approachable.
          • Temperance: While primarily used in drinking alcohol, this also applies to any behaviors where self-restraint, moderation, and expressions or observance of temperate behaviors are required.
          • Frugality: Besides being a good steward of other people’s resources, being frugal requires being sparing, prudent, economical, thrifty, and reserved.
          • Virtue: Requires moral excellence, modesty, personal dignity, goodness, and conformity to a standard of righteousness.

Knowledge Check!The Eagles sing a song called “Lyin’ Eyes,” in which truth is revealed:

There ain’t no way to hide your lyin’ eyes!”

Look to the politicians.  I do not care about your political affiliation.  Take an honest look at them, their deeds, and their faces; can you see their lying eyes?  Use the pattern discussed above; are the politicians in public office right now frugal with your hard-earned tax dollars?  Do they practice virtue in public and private?  What about moderation and temperance?  Do they perform their jobs with justice and moderation?  If so, do they deserve your vote to stay in office?  If not, do they earn your vote to remain in office?Scared Eyes!

Better, would you trust them to watch your children in your home while you went out to dinner with your significant other?  Your consent to be governed is expressed firstly in the ballot box, next in the actions you take, and then in your investment in trusting that person to continue under supervision.  Too many local politicians have set up permanent camps because Federal politics is so amazingly in-your-face atrocious and attention-grabbing.  But, your local school board wields considerable power that affects you more directly, and they get away with abysmal behavior while the focus is on State and Federal elections and politics.

Local judges have set up horrible empires of inefficiency, dastardly inefficient and unjust, almost criminal courtrooms, while the attention is focused elsewhere.  Mayors, County Supervisors, City Councils, and the list goes on and on of political empires designed to do serious and lasting harm, steal your consent to be governed, and ruin America, all because the focus is on the more noticed elections at the state and federal levels.Modesty

America, tell me, is the government you witness daily the government you deserve?  What about the other representative governments across the globe?  Australia, has your government overstepped its legal authority and demonstrated enough contempt for the consent of the governed?  China, has your government punished you sufficiently to consider a change of government?  Hong Kong, you are being punished for agreeing to a treaty that was full of pie-crust promises, and your productivity has been propping the unjust communist regime since you joined the mainland.  Have you had enough yet?

LookI weep for Venezuela, Cuba, Brazil, Hong Kong, Vietnam, and so many other countries where the people’s voice was twisted, distorted, stolen, or outright silenced to implant a government that does not represent the people.  But, the principles remain the same; your consent to be governed remains the tinder upon which your money is exchanged.  Your consent to be governed remains the trust used to keep unjust regimes and totalitarian officers in office.  Your consent to be governed is the straw that will break the camels back and force changes to government.  If the last century has taught us anything, when the people have had enough, collectively stand, and refuse their consent to be governed, blessed change will come, and governments crumble and blow away like dust in heavy winds!

Let us withhold our consent to be governed until the government starts listening to us, not the special interests, their own capacious egos, and monied influencers!

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NO MORE BS: – Let us Open a Dialogue – The Gender Choices

Social Justice Warrior 2The elected clowns have filled my email inbox with all sorts of marketing emails regarding “The Equality Act.”  The Equality Act remedies these disparities by amending the Civil Rights Act of 1964 to explicitly prohibit discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity in employment, education, housing, credit, jury service, public accommodations, and federal funding.  The following are not examples of closed-mindedness, nor am I passing judgment; honest questions, attempting to understand a social issue that makes no sense to me personally, creating too much emotional hyperbole in society.

Why do we need the “Equality Act?”

The US Constitution claims all men are created equal; America has had to amend to include women in this claim because of bigots stuck in the fourth century AD.  But, there are sufficient laws on the books covering the need to treat everyone regardless of sex, religion, handicap, etc., equally.  Why do we specifically need a law to cover personal bedroom and gender choices that should never be discussed anyway?  I do not care about your gender choices, nor do I want to hear about your bedroom activities, homo- or heterosexual choices.  These are your choices, the consequences are yours to enjoy, and frankly, I could care less.  Just keep your preferences private and leave me out of your choices.  If you already have equality under the law as written in the US Constitution and other existing laws, why are we creating new laws?

Respect for self and modesty in public – What happened?

ModestyThe one relationship I have had where I did not respect my partner to keep my bedroom choices in my bedroom and not in public, I have regretted it, and apologies never made right my loss of control.  I learned harsh lessons about respect and caring about the other person; more, I learned about respecting society to allow social behavior to not interfere with my partner and me.

RememberModesty in public is more than hemlines, it is an attitude of respect for others, and it is a desire to not inflict upon another that which they do not want to witness.  Yet, every day, a person is assaulted in public by behaviors and activities that belong at home, or more specifically in a bedroom.  Since the LGBTQ+ crowd seems to have lost their minds the most with respect for their partner/s and the public square, I must ask, why do you disrespect yourselves and your partner/s so much as to take your bedroom into public?  Not letting the heterosexual crowd off the hook, the last couple of movie theaters visited had severe problems with respect and modesty in public.

When I asked why they could not control themselves, I was told not to watch.  As the couple engaging was sitting directly in front of me, it was hard to miss the spectacle.  I went to see a G-rated animated movie and was forced to watch the film with XXX-rated material provided by the couple.  It is not enjoyable, not acceptable, and not respectful for either the couple or the other theatergoers or the public in general.  Yet, the behavior in the last “Gay Pride Parade” was exponentially worse, and I could not watch the news, go in public, or go anywhere without being assaulted by the images of disrespect and the shunning of modesty for the public spectacles of bad decisions and poor behavior.

moral-valuesThus, I ask, what happened to respect for oneself, their partner, and the public in presenting modest behavior in public and controlling one’s behavior until they returned home?  What happened to respect for the public square and standards for conduct in public?  It is not too much to ask a person to control themselves and respect their partner/s in public!

Elected Officials – Are all the other issues in America Resolved?

Do we have a balanced budget, making payments on the debt, and resolving all other issues that made passing the “Equality Act” of paramount importance?  You waste my time and yours by focusing upon the minutia when the 800#-Gorilla of debt and financial instability remains a glaring problem.  The COVID crisis created by government hyperventilating remains a time-sensitive issue; did I miss the memo where this had been resolved, and people can return to business as usual?  What about illegal immigration?  Has the southern wall been built, old laws culled, and the problem resolved so American’s can go back to work in America, the welfare rolls reduced of illegal-aliens, and security can be found in American cities?

Theres moreWhy was the “Equality Act” fast-tracked into Congressional business when so many other issues remain outstanding?  You, the elected representatives in the legislative branch, have two jobs, write common-sense laws that help everyone, and scrutinize the government.  How is that scrutinization of government going?  Have all the problems with out-of-control bureaucrats been resolved?  Can veterans receive respect and dignity from the VA?  What about the IRS, are their employees all paying their taxes now?  What about all the other government departments?  How are they operating?  Have all their unfunded liabilities been collected and a plan put into place to pay them off?

Pride – Which definition?  Why?

The marketing materials speak of pride in accomplishing the passing of the “Equality Act.”  Really?!?!?  Pride?!?!  What was accomplished?  What good is being provided to all Americans?  Where is the value of this legislation?

Pride 2Pride has several definitions, the first being, according to Webster, Noun – “a feeling of deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired.”  The second, “consciousness of one’s dignity.”  The third, “confidence and self-respect as expressed by members of a group, typically one that has been socially marginalized, based on their shared identity, culture, and experience.”

Pride is defined as “being especially proud of (a particular quality or skill)” when used as a verb.  In older dictionaries, the definition of pride also included the following, “enmity.”  Enmity is defined as “the state or feeling of being actively opposed or hostile to someone or something.”  Feel free to comment, but this definition of pride appears to be more applicable to the “Equality Act” than any other definition.  The hostility of the elected representatives towards the American people appears to ooze from every email marketing this “great achievement.”  The hostility and active opposition to performing the roles we elected you to fill is glaring and very much not appreciated!

Detective 3Enmity remains synonymous with pride for a reason.  Pride is always competitive in nature, where the person possessing pride claims they are better than everyone else, and all must bow and worship the owner of pride.  Well, I have removed my consent to be governed by you!  Pride is always short-tempered, unkind, envious, and hostile.  Hence, I wonder why you choose to feel pride over passing the “Equality Act.”  Did you read the act before voting?  How many elected supporters got their palms greased, and their special interests paid for with the public’s money to pass the “Equality Act?”

A “Liberty FIRST Culture” recognizes the sham and will not allow you to continue to abuse the American Public for much longer!

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NO MORE BS: The Virtuous Woman, the Modest Man

Another result of School 2 educational methodology was pointed out to me, the loss of the virtuous woman and the modest man.  I owe my life and sanity to a Catholic Nun, who left the nunnery to work in the real world with children.  Miss Murphy was a virtuous woman, not just because of her commitments to the church as a nun, but her poise, her speech, her mental aptitude and attitude, all bespoke virtue.  Miss Murphy was my principal at Governor Anderson Elementary School, Belfast, Maine, for three years.  She remained my friend for another two years, and her example has had a significant influence on me.

My wife, born in 1941, is a virtuous woman.  Her strength comes from her mother, who was virtuous, kind, and a bare-knuckle fighter.  I love my Mother-in-Law for her scrappiness and her virtues, her kindness, and her focused strength.  Her daughter is a softer version of the mother, and both of these women have had a tremendous influence on my life.

Virtuous WomanI never met my paternal grandfather; my paternal grandmother was a virtuous woman, a nurse, and an influence for good.  My maternal grandmother and grandfather were two of the most virtuous and modest people I ever met.  Some fond memories exist with both of these incredible people, and I hope I am representing their virtues and modesty appropriately.  My maternal great-grandmother was an incredible woman.  She was blind, but her clothes were always neat and comely, her house was immaculate, and sure she had some help, but the core was all her.

Where did the virtuous woman and modest man go in society?

Virtuous Woman 2They got lost as School 2 progressivism won the contest for educating young minds.  As children’s education became the reduction of minds to animal appetites increasingly, virtue and modesty were the first victims.  When I went to school, if your underwear was showing, it was considered a crime.  I was bullied and got a wedgie, the principal saw my underwear, and I got a two-day suspension and had to write a report on modesty in public and why modesty was important, as a condition to returning to school.  Now, underwear is everywhere, virtue and modesty are punchlines in-jokes, and the grandeur and mystery of the human body are belittled and mocked.

School 2 Methodologies:

Education is “… the result of modifiability in the paths of neural conduction. Explanations of even such forms of learning as abstraction and generalization demand of the neurones only growth, excitability, conductivity, and modifiability. The mind is the connection system of man; and learning is the process of connecting. The situation-response formula is adequate to cover learning of any sort, and the influential factors in learning are readiness of the neurones, sequence in time.”

Observations:

Virtuous Woman 3I love watching and observing people, children are the best, and little girls are amazing.  Why, because little girls live in their own world, interpret their worlds so dynamically different from boys, and ages of girls have distinct differences in understanding the world.  Get a group of 4-year old girls together, and they play differently than 5-year old girls, while their worlds can merge the girl’s world always remain separate.  But, too often, I see children forced into roles that they are uncomfortable with.  For example, little girls need a space of their own to think, consider, play, interpret, and be safe.  The girl is often bombarded with stuff that does not allow a safe space, and the little girl grows up insecure.

Little boys need room to roam, expand, explore, and run around.  Little boys need this exercise as much as they need air to breathe.  Yet, too often, the little boys are losing this room, and in losing the room, lose themselves, and never fully appreciate what it means to be a guy.

ModestyWandering through a clothing store one day, I was shocked, bewildered, and dismayed to see two-piece bikinis for newborns and toddlers.  How is a girl to learn her body’s majesty if her every waking moment is spent showing off her body?  How is a boy to learn control and respect for his body and a girl’s body when the clothes available are immodest at best?

The lessons of the schoolroom have invaded every aspect of our lives.  The reduction of the human spirit to neurologic impulse and animal appetites has robbed little children of the most precious time of their lives, their childhoods!

Wasting TimeThe time for silence is over.  The time for immodesty in public, displayed in verbal explosions of profanity, clothes that do not reflect respect in self, and the mocking of virtue, needs to end.  We are not animals, and we are not unrestrained appetites.  We are more than the connections of neurons that are turned on and off by a need for sensory gratification.  Those who are currently in power can be defeated and deserve to be defeated by realizing that we no longer accept that which has been “educated” into our brains.

I am not asking for high-necked collars and ties to go to the grocery store.  I am not claiming women should go back to hoop skirts and corsets.  I am encouraging a return to virtues, modesty, and respect first for oneself.

What are virtues?

VirtueVirtue, by definition, is the moral excellence of a person. A morally excellent person has a character made-up of virtues valued as useful.  Virtue is moral excellence. A virtue is a trait or quality deemed morally acceptable and thus is valued as a foundation of principle and good moral being. Personal virtues are characteristics valued as promoting collective and individual greatness.  Aristotle provided 12 unique virtues, which we should begin with understanding and acquiring.  Aristotle’s 12 virtues:

1) Courage – bravery
2) Temperance – moderation
3) Liberality – the quality of being open to novel ideas and free from prejudice.
4) Magnificence – charisma, style
5) Magnanimity – generosity
6) Ambition – Drive to excel
7) Patience – temperate, calm
8) Friendliness – the quality of being friendly; affability
9) Truthfulness – honesty, candidness
10) Wit – humor, joy
11) Modesty –behavior, manner, or appearance intended to avoid impropriety or indecency
12) Justice – a sense of right/wrong, indignation

Andragogy - LEARNLiteracy is the power to inspire the mind, grow the soul, and improve the world we live in.  Freedom arrives thru and as a result of learning, reading, and questioning.  Freedom and liberty grow as our love of literacy increases.  The answer to improving democracy everywhere is freeing the minds through reading, writing, and learning.

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NO MORE BS: Civility – Plasticized and Abused

Hunter Biden went to church this weekend but stopped the motorcade mid-trip for coffee and bagels.  No regard for other people traveling, no respect for those in the motorcade, no concern for how a mid-motorcade stop would look, and zero care from the President!  Just so Hunter knows, when you travel in a Presidential Motorcade, you are NOT a private citizen who can stop anywhere without implications!

Theres moreWe have National Guard troops sleeping in a parking garage, and the commander in chief cannot even take enough time to address their housing, but heaven forbid Hunter Biden should not have his coffee and bagels on his way to church.  Abysmal behavioral disconnects were infuriating under President Obama; a repeat under President Biden is disgraceful, detestable, and downright demoralizing.  But, wait, there’s more!

The AP has the bitter cherry for the crap sundae news piece.  A bitter hit piece on Pres. Trump declaring civility had returned to Washington DC with the inauguration of President Biden.  As a child, I often watched Pres. Reagan navigating the rocky shoals of Washington DC and wondered where respect, modesty, civility, and common sense were in politics.  As an adult, I have witnessed both sides of the political spectrum call for civility and then act like churlish rubes.  If this is acceptable “civility,” I want more incivility after the pattern established by President Trump!

The media sycophants in the White House, the flunkey talking heads on the news programs, the lickspittles with megaphones, the kowtowers in the House and Senate, the craven fawners in the Supreme Court, all leave me wanting to grab an airsick bag and projectile vomit my lunch!  2015, along comes a non-politician, speaks well when treated well, can fight when he is abused, and does not talk or act like the cronies and toadies we have abhorred.  All the media could do was take a bitter hater pill, slurp the Hater-Aid every morning, and devour each other’s lies, and now the media wants to celebrate a “return to civility?”  Not on my watch!

LinkedIn ImageCivility is defined as politeness in speech and courtesy in behavior.  Yet, I was raised that civility, like respect, is earned.  When someone abuses you, disrespects you, lies to your face, and stabs you in the back; offering civility and respect to that person had been forfeit, and you receive what you earned—not condoning violence, merely the action of meeting disrespect and loathing, with disrespect, and loathing.

During the Iran Contra mess, I remember watching President Reagan answer insulting and worthless questions and asked why he was not treated more respectfully as the President.  My answer: “that’s politics.”  No, that is not “politics” that is politicking, and it has become the national sport.  As a refresher, politicking occurs when politicians include activities undertaken for political reasons or otherwise promoting themselves or their policies.  Politicks is narcissism on steroids, where the personal belief that you are better than others and all else are scum to be scrapped.  Nightly, Americans have watched twelve-years of politicking, disrespect, innuendo, and plain turpitude, and I must wonder, why now should civility return?

Detective 2In reviewing the historical usage of the term civility, we might answer why the calls for civility are being made now.  From dictionary.com we find, the origins of civil in the “late Middle English: from Old French civilite, from Latin civilitas, from civilis ‘relating to citizens’ (see civil). In early use, the term denoted the state of being a citizen and hence good citizenship or orderly behavior. The sense ‘politeness’ arose in the mid 16th century” [emphasis mine].  Apparently, we have another president who considers themselves above the machinations of ordinary folk, by reason of being elected, and now wants all their citizens to exude “orderly behavior.”  Carrot and stick tyranny, using the people’s money and abusing government for self-aggrandizement and enrichment.

Tell me, where were the calls for civility back when Minneapolis was burning last spring?  Where was Biden/Harris in leading for calls of civility all last summer?  Where were the calls for orderly behavior when the media ran with the lie that President Trump won by using Russian interference?  When the public’s property was stolen by CHAZ/CHOP, who was admonishing for civility, citizenship, and politeness?  The entire primary season, those now in the seats of power, on both sides of the aisle, refused to admonish, reprimand, rebuke, or chastise the puerile behavior of terrorists. Still, these same people could always make time to insult, gossip, and undercut the President.

Even now, Portland continues to burn from the actions of terrorists, all connected to the liberal politics of the left, and none of the political leaders will support the “Rule of Law” and end the tyranny of terrorism.  Yet, everyone else is commanded to be civil, polite, kind, and accept what is being forced upon us by our political masters.  Not bloody likely!

Scared Eyes!John Pinette, the comedian, had a famous line, “My Cherub-Like Demeanor.”  Well, “My cherub-like demeanor” has been abused, beaten, and bruised enough!  Civility is respect, respect is civility, and both require a place for growth through trust.  I cannot trust a fraudulent president.  I cannot trust the media.  I cannot trust Congress.  Why should I allow my cherub-like demeanor to continue to be abused while I abase myself in the hopes that some government bureaucratic ticket-puncher will send benefits my way?

No!  Absolutely NOT!  If you want civility, act in a manner that is civil first!  Want respect, act in a manner worthy of respect.  Desire consideration for your political opinion, spew fewer lies, disrespect, and hatred.  Desire politeness and good manners show them to others first!  A bureaucrat at the Post Office by my house always treats people based upon race, I am not in the favored category, and this person’s actions are bloody reprehensible.  Why have we allowed the bureaucrats to weaponize government; because we allowed through voting those who lead the government and provide the example.

During President Obama’s years, I regularly saw “Tea-Party” demonstrations.  They were quiet, respectful, well mannered, and the media used every trick in their Cloward and Piven textbooks to denigrate and deride the Tea-Party.  The difference between the hordes of liberals protesting and the Tea-Party was 180-degrees of separation.  Hence, it is time to treat the puerile like children, the detestable as the despised they are, and the repellant as the excrement they treat others.

ToolsCivility is a grand goal to achieve, but offering courtesy and getting slapped, is not a method for progression but continued abuse.  President Trump taught well; you can disagree without resorting to violence.  You can share a cherub-like demeanor with those who respect you and treat your opposition as they treat you.  You can stand and oppose without losing the moral high ground.  That is what is needed right now!  End the liberal left’s grand ideas of superiority by reminding them they are citizens as well, and civility is first offered, not demanded without reciprocation.  It must be shared to improve anything with those who think differently.

There is no excuse for continuing the cycles of abuse while watching extremists from both parties call for that which they have no intention of offering.  President Biden has no intention of following the US Constitution, neither does Kamala Harris, Speakers Pelosi, and Schumer, or any of their ilk.  Worse, they will continue to call for that which they refuse to offer.  Tell them firmly NO!  We are not servants to government; the government is a servant to the citizens, and they should be showing civility and respect!  If they want respect and civility, they need to offer respect and civility, follow the law, and do their jobs as outlined in the US Constitution.

© 2021 M. Dave Salisbury
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